My first reaction is:

Hmm, ahh what? I am not quite sure if there is any difference?

Than I let the question sit with me and I contemplated on it further and deeper.

The deeper I think about it, the clearer it gets that there is no difference, and that seduction is a very essential part of being a fully integrated man.

A peacock can grow crazy, flashy 6 foot long feathers for no apparent reason other than to seduce the chick, and to be a full participant in the mating dance and no one makes him wrong for it. A woman can spend two hours putting on make up and wearing a push-up bra and no one makes her wrong for it either.

And when a man wants to feel empowered to approach beautiful women in a solid, smooth, seductive way, now the whole world comes down on him for doing that and for not “just being yourself”. Guess what!  He has been told “just be yourself” for the last 20-30-40 years and it has not been working. Can one not be himself? Most women express the desire for a powerful, confident man to approach them and when he endeavors to be that man, all of a sudden he is not worthy for some reason.

So imagine, just for a second if you may, what your life would be like if you were that confident that you can have any woman you want to the point where you do not have to prove it to yourself, because you are confident in your seduction?!

For all the women out there!

Do you have any idea of how fucking terrifyingly scary you are to 99% of men?

I have had many men tell me in these exact words:
“I have had bullets fly by my head and you are asking me to stand in front of this woman fully vulnerable and just look her in the eye without saying anything?  This will be, by far, the scariest thing I have ever done in my life!”

Tell me now, how can a man be fully in his integrity and power if he can carry a gun, make money, fly an airplane, or anything you can think of but he cannot look a woman straight in the eye and just be present with her?

Call it seduction, call it confidence, call it anything you want, the majority of men have the same problem, they are afraid (scared shitless) to approach a woman they are attracted to.  I have met and know a ton of powerful men that give me chills up my spine from total respect and honor for their achievements in life, and the moment a beautiful woman walks in the room they become as small as a fucking peanut.

So, I will answer the question that I have been asked over and over again by different people:  The answer is Yes!
~ Yes, I am teaching men how to be fully integrated in their integrity and power.
~ Yes, I am teaching men Seduction.

And if you are curious to know how I teach men to be fully integrated in their power by using seduction and the reflection of women you are welcome to come experience it for yourself in the next workshop I do!

In the mean time, I am sending you love and compassion
~Hristiyan

This time we are exploring the power of persistence so nicely demonstrated by Ethan Hawke in the amazing movie “New Your I Love YOU”

I personally really enjoyed this movie if you have not yet seen it you should definitely  do so and in a mean time enjoy this scene.

Make sure to tell me what you think of it and what you want more of

Love

Last week I broke down the seduction scene in the movie “Vicky Cristina Barcelona” and to my surprise, I got incredibly positive responses from it.

People have been emailing me telling me how much they got out of it, and I’ve been asked to do some more!

So this week, I decided to do what is probably the most famous Pick Up scene in a movie:  The scene with the cigarette girl from the movie “The Aviator.”

So here is the scene:

Enjoy and do not forget to let me know what you think of it and what you got out of it.

~Hristiyan

Seducing a Woman on Stage Without Using Words!

A couple of weeks ago I went to a retreat with some friends and was fortunate enough to meet a lot of new friends.

Since most of my community are coaches and workshop leaders and we all love having a lot of fun.  We decided conduct a few one hour workshops. One of my friends even wanted to do something even more exciting. He offered to put together a talent show.

So since I love being on stage, I decided to sign up for it.

Something funny happened when I signed up for it, he asked me: “So what is your talent?”

I had a hard time coming up with one so for fun and giggles I said: “Put down ‘Seduction’”

I had 3 to 6 min to present my talent and I thought the best thing would be to invite a woman from the audience and seduce her on stage in front of everyone. And since I love to play on the edge, and since NLP says that only 8% of what you say actually matters, I thought I need to do it without using any words.

So here is the video from it. The quality of it is kind of crappy since it was shot with one of my friends hand held cameras, but I hope you enjoy it.

Make sure to let me know what you think of it.

If you have not seen the movie “Vicky Cristina Barcelona” and you want to learn about seduction, you should watch it.

There is a lot you can learn from this scene from the movie where the main character seduces the two women.

I have broken down the interaction for you so that you can learn, step by step, what he is doing that is working so well for him.

Watch for the following:

How he is deeply appreciating them.

How solid he it.

How he is offering them a gift.

How he is being unapologetic.

It was very powerful for me and had me contemplating its words for the last week.

There for I wanted to share it with you in hope that it may have the some powerful and transformational effect on you.

Here it is:

When a fairly spiritual male friend of mine who had finally found and was deepening into committed relationship with his soul mate confided in me he was thinking of being single again, and in the next breath expressed his latest idea for raising consciousness worldwide, I wrote this poem.

If you want to change the world… love a woman-really love her.
Find the one who calls to your soul, who doesn’t make sense.
Throw away your check list and put your ear to her heart and listen.
Hear the names, the prayers, the songs of every living thing-
every winged one, every furry and scaled one,
every underground and underwater one, every green and flowering one,
every not yet born and dying one…
Hear their melancholy praises back to the One who gave them life.
If you haven’t heard your own name yet, you haven’t listened long enough.
If your eyes aren’t filled with tears, if you aren’t bowing at her feet,
you haven’t ever grieved having almost lost her.

If you want to change the world… love a woman-one woman
beyond yourself, beyond desire and reason,
beyond your male preferences for youth, beauty and variety
and all your superficial concepts of freedom.
We have given ourselves so many choices
we have forgotten that true liberation
comes from standing in the middle of the soul’s fire
and burning through our resistance to Love.
There is only one Goddess.
Look into Her eyes and see-really see
if she is the one to bring the axe to your head.
If not, walk away. Right now.
Don’t waste time “trying.”
Know that your decision has nothing to do with her
because ultimately it’s not with who,
but when we choose to surrender.

If you want to change the world… love a woman.
Love her for life-beyond your fear of death,
beyond your fear of being manipulated
by the Mother inside your head.
Don’t tell her you’re willing to die for her.
Say you’re willing to LIVE with her,
plant trees with her and watch them grow.
Be her hero by telling her how beautiful she is in her vulnerable majesty,
by helping her to remember every day that she IS Goddess
through your adoration and devotion.

If you want to change the world… love a woman
in all her faces, through all her seasons
and she will heal you of your schizophrenia-
your double-mindedness and half-heartedness
which keeps your Spirit and body separate-
which keeps you alone and always looking outside your Self
for something to make your life worth living.
There will always be another woman.
Soon the new shiny one will become the old dull one
and you’ll grow restless again, trading in women like cars,
trading in the Goddess for the latest object of your desire.
Man doesn’t need any more choices.
What man needs is Woman, the Way of the Feminine,
of Patience and Compassion, non-seeking, non-doing,
of breathing in one place and sinking deep intertwining roots
strong enough to hold the Earth together
while she shakes off the cement and steel from her skin.

If you want to change the world… love a woman, just one woman .
Love and protect her as if she is the last holy vessel.
Love her through her fear of abandonment
which she has been holding for all of humanity.
No, the wound is not hers to heal alone.
No, she is not weak in her codependence.

If you want to change the world… love a woman
all the way through
until she believes you,
until her instincts, her visions, her voice, her art, her passion,
her wildness have returned to her-
until she is a force of love more powerful
than all the political media demons who seek to devalue and destroy her.

If you want to change the world,
lay down your causes, your guns and protest signs.
Lay down your inner war, your righteous anger
and love a woman…
beyond all of your striving for greatness,
beyond your tenacious quest for enlightenment.
The holy grail stands before you
if you would only take her in your arms
and let go of searching for something beyond this intimacy.

What if peace is a dream which can only be re-membered
through the heart of Woman?
What if a man’s love for Woman, the Way of the Feminine
is the key to opening Her heart?

If you want to change the world…love a woman
to the depths of your shadow,
to the highest reaches of your Being,
back to the Garden where you first met her,
to the gateway of the rainbow realm
where you walk through together as Light as One,
to the point of no return,
to the ends and the beginning of a new Earth.

http://www.magdalenewomen.com/love-a-woman

Appreciation is the secret to what you want in life.

Appreciation is the key to transformation.
Appreciation is the key to happiness.
Appreciation is the key to having fulfilling relationships.
Appreciation is the key to seduction.

It’s such a simple concept, but so hard to put into action at the same time, isn’t it?

The other day I had the privilege of listening to a small and private talk by Eben Pagan.  He ended the talk with the words:

“The longest journey is the journey to this moment.”

I have always wondered about this whole idea of the “Pursuit of Happiness”?

How could you possibly pursue something that can only by found in this moment?

Stop for a moment, close your eyes, take a deep breath, take another one and ask yourself this question:

What is it that you need in this moment?

Everything you are looking for you can find within.

I work with so many men from all walks of life and they all come to me and want something that they do not have.

The essence of what they want is sex and love.

It is likely that you want this as well, isn’t it?

You might think that there is something magical thing that you can do to get the sex and love that you want. Something so magical and mysterious that you feel like everyone else knows what it is and that you are the only one that got cheated and is missing out on the secret.

If you see a man interact with a woman and it ends up going great, you might go up to him and ask: “what did you say to her,” thinking that he said something magical to have her swoon over him.

The problem is that you have your attention on the wrong thing.

There is nothing magical that one can do but to appreciate the magic that this moment (with her) brings.  If you do that, then magic happens on its own.

As a man, think for a moment, what is God’s most beautiful creation?

I have a friend that once said to me:

“I know that there is God because only he could create something as beautiful and magical as women. Every time I look at woman I am reminded of his existence.”

One thing that I am better at than most is seduction, and there is nothing magical about it. This biggest tool in my seduction is appreciation.

I see a woman and I am in awe.
I see a woman and I could be moved to tears.
I see a woman and I feel taken by the storm of her beauty.
I see a woman and I feel taken by her shear feminine power.
I see a woman and I feel the life force that she brings into this moment, and I walk right towards it, for I know that the only place I can survive is in the eye of the hurricane.

If you want more sex and love in your life, if you want to be surrounded by beautiful women, then all you need to do is commit to this small little exercise that you can do every day.

Appreciate every woman that you see, that you meet, that walks by you.

Ask yourself this one little question every time you see a woman:

What is beautiful about her internally and externally?

You may not know the answer to what is beautiful about her internally.  You may think you don’t know her well enough to know that.  I would invite you to make it up, hallucinate it, trust your gut and whatever it is that you hallucinated about her character, appreciate it.

Here is another exercise to do if you are really committed to having amazing relations with amazing women:

Before you go to bed, either journal or ask yourself this question:

What is already amazing about my relatining to women?
What is already amazing about the women in my life?

I guarantee, if you do that every day for 30 days you will start to witness magic in your life.

You will witness amazing women just walking up to you.
You will witness having ease and comfort with the women that you are relating with.
You will witness more sex and love from what you are having in this moment.

For more tips on how to use the power of apparition to seduce even the most powerful women check out my Tele-Class:

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You may think that to create attraction you have to drive a cool car, have a lot of money or be super cool.

You may think that you have to learn a lot of pick up routines, pick up lines, and have the right thing to say.

The truth of the matter is that none of these things matter if you are not really embodying what you are saying, and what you are doing.

You can walk up to any woman and tell her how you are going to blow her mind in the bedroom, but if you are not embodying it then she will not take you seriously.

One thing that works with creating attraction is polarity.

What is polarity?

You know how a magnet works, don’t you?

It has a + and -

Polarity.

If you get two magnets and face the two + polls of the magnet they will repel each other.  If you face the + and – polls then you get attraction.  
There are a ton of ways to create bigger and bigger polarity between you and the hot lady that you want.

Here is an example of a tool that will help you create attraction by using the concept of polarity.  This tool is a lot of fun and very powerful, so use it wisely.

Watch this video to find out what it is:

Learn How to Tie Up & Turn On a Woman from Hristiyan on Vimeo.

Today I did a really fun interview with my friend Phil Cisneros who has been a successful business coach for over 25 years.

If you haven’t had a chance to learn more about what I’m passionate about and what sets me apart from other dating coaches, check out this FREE, fun, and informative interview!

We had a great conversation where I share some of my secrets to being successful with women, including how to be more confident with women, how to know when she’s attracted to you, and what it takes to have seductive presence.